So I think this one goes more towards us girls. We deny it all the time, but we do overreact sometimes. Sometimes. Maybe a little more than sometimes.
If you’re anything like me, you will fight to the death until someone is able to see things from your point of view. For me, I just want to make him understand! However, this can cause little issues to escalate into huge arguments that are really about nothing significant.
I for sure get pretty fired up pretty quick. I’ve got a mean, fast temper. And I’m stubborn. Blame it on the red hair.
How many arguments with your love have you had that you look back on and are like, wow that was dumb…
Matt and I once got in a full on yelling (crying on my part) fight about politics. After an hour of that we each apologized and admitted that neither one of us new a damn thing about politics and had no clue what we were even talking about. Then I laughed through my tears until my abs hurt, haha.
If you are able to recognize when an argument is stupid and pointless, that’s awesome. A really good first step.
What you want to be able to do is catch it before it happens. Not get upset in the first place. Hahaha, yeah right. Let’s face it, we’re women, it’s what we do. And seriously, how boring would life be if we never got fired up? Pretty boring I think. But maybe that’s just because I like fire. I’m a passionate person, so pretty much everything turns into a death match with me.
HOWEVER, if you can teach yourself to realize what’s going on in the midst of an argument, you’ll be able to end it that much quicker and get back to being a happy, cute couple.
Try to recognize the point that a fight gets out of hand. As soon as you realize that whatever it is, really isn’t worth fighting over, back off. Literally. In the middle of it, just stop. Think for a second. Realize that all it takes to potentially ruin a good relationship, is a really bad fight. Things are said that you don’t mean. People get cold and ruthless when they’re arguing and a lot of the time you can risk cutting a little too deep.
So if you can just pull yourself back, think: is this really worth this huge fight? Does this stupid argument really matter that much?
Take a step back. See it for what it is. A ridiculous fight over nothing. And just say, “hey, this is ridiculous. Can you believe we’re getting this pissed off over something this stupid? I love you and I’m sorry, let’s just forget about it, ok?”
And honestly, you and your partner are not going to have the exact same opinion on every single solitary subject matter. That would be weird and boring. And you’d be that weird, boring, identical couple that everyone thinks is odd. You don’t want that.
You’re going to have different ideas. You’re going to butt heads once in a while. You know the whole cheesy “you complete me” line? Well it kinda holds true. Where one of you are single minded, the other gives you variety. As a couple you can see different views of every picture.
When things get out of hand, take a step back. Think about whether it’s worth the anger, and the crying, and whatever else accompanies your quarrels.
Here’s the best part, girls. When you’re in the middle of yelling and crying at your man, NOTHING screws with their head more than just turning it off and suddenly being all better now. They’ll think it’s some kind of trap the first few times 😉
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