Here’s some advice. Do not rush into permanency without putting in the time. If it took you 4 years to realize your last boyfriend was not the guy for you, then you have no business thinking you’re ready to marry your current boyfriend of 1 year.
My point is, if you think 1 year is long enough to know, then you should’ve known the last one wasn’t it after a year. This mostly applies to the kids right out of high school and college. For a more mature generation, this may not be the case. But when you’re in your late teens/early twenties, you barely know who YOU are. Let alone this other person that you think you’re ready to spend your life with.
It drives me nuts when someone in the middle of their college degree, or right fresh out of high school decides they want to get married.
Here is the most important part of this whole lecture: If you are meant to be together, they will still be there waiting for you when the time comes to take that step. If that person is not willing to wait 2 more years for you to graduate, then walk away. Wait until you are done with school, have a job, are financially stable and actually able to support each other and THEN take that step. Unless an extremely low budget wedding and financial hardship were your childhood dreams…
Please note, this does not apply to everyone. There are exceptions. Please don’t be that person who reads this and thinks I’m speaking directly at you. This is a generalization about people who think they’re in love after only a few months because they’re in the honeymoon stage. Guess what folks? When you meet the man or woman of your dreams, they will drive you nuts. They’ll piss you off, they’ll make you want to pull your hair out, they will drive. you. crazy. I’ve been with Matt for 4 years and we still find out stuff about each other once in a while. And that’s saying something because we are very open with each other. We’re a much different couple than we were 3 years ago.
What makes it real love is the endurance of your heart to keep on loving through all of that. Being able to make it through the hard times without ever wavering in how you feel towards them. Second thoughts never cross your mind, and you would do anything in world for them knowing they would do the same for you.
Don’t search out love. It’s shy. Love will find you when you’re least expecting it. That’s when it’s real. It’s not a game or a process, and you can’t make it happen. You can simply play your cards well, and see where it takes you.
If you’re a young adult who thinks they’re ready to tie the knot, I’d suggest waiting until your current relationship is your longest relationship and until you’re both in that stage of your life. You want to enjoy your first year of marriage, not spend it studying calculus…
Think about it.
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